Sean Reiser

OK, before I actually get to the post, a little housekeeping. Where I received a few positive comments from yesterday's post, If You're Not Sleeping With Someone, Why Do You Care Who They Sleep With?, I've gotten some rather negative, vulgar and abusive email, which I won't post here. I do have one request though, I have the courage to post my thoughts here, online, where people can see them, please feel free to use the comment box below to voice your disapproval. Oh, if you're going to point out that since you have my address you're coming to "get me and f** me up the a**" be aware that if you're not using a proxy it's easy to track an email back to the source. Flying from Germany to NYC is a lot just to "get me" and if you want me so bad, I do wonder about your sexuality. I am disappointed, none of you actually answered my question; Why Do You Care?

To the topic, I did get some serious questions in my inbox and I wanted to address them. I prefer to do it publicly to cut down on having to answer the same questions in the future.

One big thing is people are discussing me being "pro-gay". Quite frankly, I don't know what that means, and I'll explain why as we go on. If I'm anything I'm "anti-hate".

There are two schools of thought about sexuality:

1. Being gay is a part of someone's makeup, either through nature or nurture, like height, race or eye-color.
2. Being gay is a conscious choice.

Let's break each of these down.

Assuming sexuality is part of the genes, or at least outside a person's control, I don't understand what there is to be "pro" or "anti-" about. It would be like being anti-brown eyes.

Ok, now the big one. What if being gay is a choice? Also let's assume that not only is it a choice but it's a sin of some sort. As far as sins go this seems to be a victimless one. In a world where abuse, rape, and murder the activities of 2 people's private activities in a bedroom seems to be a hill of small beans. If you're saying "well it's a sin, so I'm fighting G_d's battle", I have to wonder, are you gong after all sins with the same gusto? Do you spend time hating everyone who's had an affair? Do you threaten the thieves and liars? Does you blood boil when someone doesn't honour their mother and father? If you're not, I have to wonder why you've chosen the one victimless sin as the sin to attack.

So, now the one question people may ask, "Sean, Do you Think It's A Choice, or Part of Who People Are?". Honestly, I really don't know. It's not a copout, I'm not gay and have no idea why people live one lifestyle or the other. I can tell you that I'm straight because I find women attractive, not men. The one thing that makes me thing it's part of a person's makeup is that no person would choose to live a life in secret, or be discriminated against if they could avoid it.